Tips To Get Your Kids To Actually Listen
Moms, I get it – raising kids can be a daunting task. It's hard enough trying to stay on top of meals and school projects without having to battle with our children over every little thing. But have no fear—we've got some tricks up our sleeves that will make getting your kiddos to actually listen just a bit easier, while still having a good (and funny) time doing it!
Talk to Your Kids in a Language They Understand - Use funny voices and make jokes to get their attention.
Talking to your kids in a language they understand can be so much fun! Using funny voices and making jokes not only grabs their attention but shows that you’re willing to get out of your comfort zone for them. It really helps build a strong relationship between parent and child when you can switch up your voice or make hilarious jokes, even if it means sounding silly for a few minutes. Plus, it will open up the conversation—you’ll notice that your kids are more inclined to tell you things when they sense that you truly value having a laugh together. So don't be afraid: give funny voices and make jokes with your little ones -- they'll love it!
Model Good Listening - Show your kids how important it is to listen by being a good listener yourself
Setting an example is one of the best ways to cultivate good habits in your children and demonstrating good listening behavior can be a powerful teaching tool. How you listen to them speaks volumes and will teach them how they should treat others. As cheesy as it may sound, kids learn more by watching than they do by being told what to do –be their model! Step up and give your undivided attention when your child shares something with you; show them that you value what they say by really listening carefully and responding with questions or comments. Demonstrating active engagement will emphasize the importance of having meaningful conversations which will set them on the path of successful communication throughout life. So, put down your phone, take a deep breath, look directly at your child, and listen instead -you're now role-modeling good listening!
Connect with Your Kids - Make eye contact with them when you talk, and ask questions to get them engaged
To really connect with your kids, look them in the eye when you talk! Eye contact lets kids know that you are genuinely interested in what they have to say. Making eye contact also helps kids understand that their thoughts and feelings matter. Whenever you can, ask questions - this not only encourages them to open up but establishes a sense of respect between you two. Plus, it's so fun hearing your kids' perspectives on life and discovering their unique humor! Connecting with your kids doesn't have to be hard or boring - make it enjoyable for both of you.
Make It Fun - Play games or do activities together that get your kids excited about listening
Playing games or doing activities with your kids will help make listening an enjoyable experience. Not only can you have a good time together, but it can also empower them to become more interested in hearing what you have to say. For instance, if your child isn't keen on following directions, a simple game like Simon Says can be entertaining and also provide a solid foundation for learning about following instructions. It's also possible to make even mundane chores become something enjoyable when done in the form of a race or contest. In other words, fun activities don’t just get your children excited about listening – they also introduce the ‘listening’ concept in an enjoyable way that may take away from any feelings of pressure or intimidation!
Empower Them - Encourage your kids to share their ideas and opinions, and thank them for listening
Showing your kids that their opinion matters is a great way to empower them. The simple act of sharing ideas and listening - without judgment - can open the door to communication. So take advantage of it! Listen to what they have to say, thank them for participating in the conversation, and let your kids know that you trust their insights by giving thoughtful responses. When done in a funny (but non-patronizing!) manner, you can really foster an understanding between parents and kids that promotes expression and confidence.
Keeping consistent with strategies for effective listening is key to getting your kids to be better listeners. This isn't the time for occasional bribes or reminders when you feel like it - your children will pick up on the fact that if you don't consistently enforce expectations, they know that nothing bad is likely to happen. Consider yourself a superhero and make sure your children know you're serious about teaching them to listen by utilizing these tips with every passing day. They may not be thrilled at first, but eventually, it will become second nature and you'll see a drastic improvement in their listening skills. Get ready for victory - because it's definitely coming!
